Five Foreplay Ideas That Won’t Fail

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New relationships progress and slowly fizzle out with no spark left and sex becomes a mundane and boring activity to either one or maybe both the partners at times.

Here are five innovative foreplay ideas for you that have stood the pressure of time and have worked always.

Try these and tell us what worked for you.

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Do not underestimate the power of a teasing caress or a touch! Run your finger teasingly through your partner’s back, thigh, groin. Look them in the eyes while you caress their face and watch those shivers run down their spine. And when you feel the heat is turned on, probably dig those fingernails into their skin.

TEASE

There is no one way to tease your partner. Get innovative. Text them. Or rather sext them from work as a prelude of what’s to come for the night. Tease them with sexy pictures, nudes if you will. Whisper tender words in their ear, and gently blow on it. Catch them by surprise from behind and kiss, caress, nibble, bite, lick or just blow on their neck and watch them shudder in arousal. Or maybe add a striptease by undressing slowly!

Try these before the actual action is about to begin and get your partner into the mood for what is to come. These help to further the anticipation and get those butterflies fluttering in the tummy. Create suspense of what is to come because the thrill of the unknown is extremely exciting- the same reason why we love thrillers, mysteries, and horror movies.

Lovemaking does not always have to be penetrative. Do what works for you and your partner. There are many ways to orgasms and don’t hesitate to take the help of sexual aids if you have to get there. Don’t put the entire pressure of performance on your partner and you. Enjoy the moment, communicate and ask what they would like to get done to them or what they would like to do. This makes things easier and takes off the stress of not knowing what they like and want.

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I was walking down the main road in a tier 3 city along with my friend when two men on a bike rushed against us, turned again and almost pulled my friend’s dupatta — though we managed to save her, we couldn’t get a hold of those men. We froze for almost a minute before grasping everything that happened with us.

It’s been a decade since that incident, and I still look out for bikes and stay aware while walking such roads.

My cousin had to board an overcrowded bus once only to face off a stinking drunk man who was ‘just’ trying to tell her how beautiful she was. Apparently, she almost stopped using public buses.

My colleague always books two adjacent seats in shared autos because she has met a lot of men who, unfortunately, have not been taught how to adjust in their own seat and not to ‘almost’ fall on other women’s lap.

That was neither the first time nor the last time when such an incident happened with my friend, cousin or colleague.

I was in standard seven, eight or nine — I do not remember exactly — a middle-aged man groped me while I was walking to my school. And before I could react, shout and or even notice his face again, he was already out of my sight. That was one of the longest ten minutes walks I’ve ever had.

From blank calls to abusive calls, creepy stares, random terrible gropings, unwanted chases, etc.; the list is long and haunting.

And, it’s not only me who has experienced it. There is a minimum of hundreds of such incidents happening every day — while you may generalise the level of insolence, one can never justify the trauma it brings!

The sad part is that almost 99% of cases of sexual assaults go unreported — sad and dark, isn’t it?

sexual abuse india data — Source: Livemint

And when I say sexual abuse, it is not limited to what you are trying to shred off. Physical abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse, digital abuse, etc. are just the various forms of the torments that it brings.

Where and what is the problem they ask. Is it the mentality or rage or a compulsive mechanism to overpower another’s will or just an amusement? The reason is never annotated, never justified.

The only justification I’ve ever got is the over-liberation of femininity in the name of equality!!

Of course, they sound accurate. How can we compete against the species who have the god-given power to make us pregnant and ensure that the kids turn out to be straight! How can we have the audacity to walk in that sacred place where they go every day to earn the currency and be better than them!

Isn’t that too hard and cruel, I ask ladies! Every deed of theirs is a reminder to us — that we must not use our basic rights and sit back under the boundaries that they call house.

Sometimes, I feel that I, or maybe a lot of women, like me have passed that very stage of toleration, have crossed their threshold and have fought enough to question the people and society they belong to — maybe, we now know, or rather, have accepted that ‘this’ is not going to change — no matter how hard we fight or raise our voice.

This whole ‘do not question my patriarchal rights or else I’d harm your self-esteem and dignity’ have reached a new level — a level of fake male ego, the art of hiding inability under the trousers and the unstoppable show-off of muscles.

So yes, while I hold placards and roam around the city, a part of me knows that it’s not possible to change 1.38 billion minds against the same perception — it’s not possible to convince them that we live in a metropolitan era which does not distinguish between gender, caste, creed and sexuality.

And while I move on to document another horrific experience, I challenge every woman out there to tell our readers if she has not been abused at any age, place or time.
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