In all romantic and sexual relationships, whether they are new or old, there comes a time when things aren’t as easy as they once were and couples look for ways to improve sexual intimacy. If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you might feel like there’s nothing new to learn about your partner.
It can be difficult to keep things fresh in a long-term relationship. You might find that you’ve heard all of your partner’s stories, know all their quirks, and don’t know how to get to know them better. All relationships go through periods where they’re not as easy as before.
In new relationships, learning about what makes them go, what turns them on, and what turns them off takes time because not many couples discuss these things outright and upfront. In fact, some couples may not know these things about their partners even after staying together for years.
The good thing about relationships is that it’s never too late to get back on track. It’s always going to be a work in progress, and keeping a relationship going takes a lot of patience and understanding.
One of the best ways to improve sexual intimacy is to learn to communicate better and ask your partner questions. Not just any questions, either, but questions that will help you get to know each other on a deeper, more intimate level to bring you closer not just in your relationship but even under the sheets. *wink wink*
What is intimacy?
Intimacy is the emotional close relationship between people in personal relationships. You can feel intimate with many different people depending on your relationship with them and the level of intimacy you feel in relationships may also change over time.
Just like how we are at times closer to certain friends than others, the same applies to physical intimacy as well. You may not have shared the same level of closeness and openness with all of your partners and that would have eventually decided the fate of your relationship in the long run. If we don’t put in the work to maintain that closeness, then our relationship can start to grow apart.
Questions to ask your partner to Improve Sexual Intimacy
If the ice has not been broken and if you haven’t had this talk earlier then here are some questions that can help you break the awkwardness to start with before you can get to the really intimate part. It is not a bad thing at all to talk about these things, and is a great communication exercise to make sure that each one is comfortable with the other, knows what is consensual or not, and what things can be a no-no when it comes to romance and sex.
- What do you love the most about our relationship?
- How would you prefer to be shown love?
- How do you like to express love?
- What do you fear the most about our relationship?
- What is your favorite sexual memory you have of ours?
- What has excited you lately in bed?
- What is your favorite type of compliment to get while getting physical?
- What is the closest you’ve ever felt to me during sex?
- What is your pet peeve (something you don’t like to do) in bed?
- What is your sexual fantasy/ kink/ fetish that you want to try?
While not all may have to ask their partner all of these questions, you can try to find some that resonate with you and start there. Spend some time together and have serious conversations if you’re looking for more support building intimacy with your partner.
Also read Tips For Couples For Better Communication In Relationships