'Enough is not enough'- domestic violence cases see no end

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Popular TV actor Divya Bhatnagar of Yeh Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai fame, who had been diagnosed with Covid-19, died early this week after a cardiac arrest. After her death her friend, Devoleena Bhattacharjee’s uploaded an emotional video on social media where she also alleged that her late friend had been a victim of domestic violence at the hands of her husband Gagan Gabru.

Divya Bhatnagar with husband Gagan Gabru

Later, Divya’s brother found a note left behind in her cupboard in which she detailed the abuse she suffered at the hands of her husband, Gagan Gabru. Divya’s brother Devashish revealed that she had left behind a note in which she wrote details about the abuse she suffered in her marriage. Written on November 7 she had stated in the note that Gagan tortures and abuses her. She had also approached the police and filed an NC on November 16 against him, following an episode of domestic abuse.

It is rather shocking to know that one out of 3 women suffer domestic abuse at the hands of their spouses, according to a data. While we may think what makes them so long to report this or why they don’t leave their spouses at the first instance, we need to understand the sociological structure that surrounds marriages in our country.

What is Gender-based Violence?

Violence against women and girls (VAWG) has been defined as “any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or mental harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life”.
(UN, 1993)

Here are some other celebrities who faced physical violence from their spouses

Karisma Kapoor, the most top rated actress form the 90s, divorced her husband Sanjay Kapur on grounds of domestic violence. Karisma Kapoor was at the peak of her career when she tied the knot with industrialist and millionaire Sanjay Kapur. After being married for ten years and parenting two children, Karisma Kapoor filed for divorce pleading mental tortured and physical violence. It was speculated that the actress had also filed a case of domestic violence against her husband and his family.

Shweta Tiwari the talented television actress faced a bad marriage not once but twice. She was initially married to actor Raja Chowdhary, and was a victim of physical abuse and domestic violence after which she decided to divorce him. Things got ugly in this love marriage when he started physically and mentally abusing Shweta. She claimed that Raja would come home drunk and physically harm her and had reported against him in police stations. After divorcing Raja, Shweta married Abhinav Kohli but filed a domestic violence complaint against Abhinav in a few years of their marriage. They are separated now.

Doe-eyed yesteryear actress Rati Agnihotri was also a victim of an abusive marriage and physical violence by her husband. When she could no longer tolerate it, she lodged a complaint and walked out after 30 years. “Well, I had certain priorities, the biggest being my son Tanuj. He was the reason I put up with all this pain for 30 years. I also believed in the sanctity of marriage… I believed in love”, said Rati in a media interview when asked why she held on for so long.

While many still continue to bear the brunt of such toxic relationships, some take a stand and put their foot down to eventually call it quits on their partner. Leaving a relationship requires strength and courage and while we hope that no woman or man should have to face violence from a companion, we also have to extend our support and help to those who finally learn to say ‘enough is enough’.

If you are facing abuse or physical violence from your parents, spouse, partner, or in-laws, here are some details you can reach out to for help and guidance:

Legal help: SHEROES

Send a Whatsapp SOS Alert on 7217735372 to NCWIndia

Highlights

Blood is not literally black; it is just the darkened colour of the menstrual blood.

Menstrual blood darker in hues doesn’t always indicate an associated health concern.

The longer the blood stays inside the uterus, the more it turns darker due to oxidation.

Medical attention is a must in certain cases.

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Menstruation usually begins between the ages of 9 and 16. It refers to the flow of blood with tissues from the inner lining of the uterus through the vagina, commonly called ‘‘periods’’. It occurs due to the breakdown of the inner lining of the endometrium of the uterus and the cycle repeats every month.

Black period blood is sometimes a common phenomenon during menstruation, while in rare cases it can be a matter of concern. Have you ever wondered why the menstrual or period blood has different hues? Well, if you have noticed or experienced it, there is nothing to panic about. It is completely normal for period blood to be a colour other than red. The colour of the menstrual blood shows a lot about your health. The colour and texture can vary from pink, orange, red, brown, grey, or even black due to certain reasons. Menstrual blood darker in hues doesn’t always indicate an associated health concern but can be for symptoms in your body.

Black period blood is not literally black; it is just the darkened colour of the menstrual blood. It appears to be black, similar to the colour of coffee grounds. Sometimes the appearance of black period blood could need medical attention.

Possible Causes

One of the likely reasons may be due to the stay of blood in the uterus longer than expected. During the beginning and the end of the period, blood flow is slightly slower. The longer the blood stays inside the uterus, the more it turns darker because of the oxidation of blood.

During periods, the blood does not come out right away. The longer the blood stays in the uterus, the darker it appears because of the oxidation.

Lochia is a condition when a woman experiences bleeding for the first four to six weeks after delivering the baby. This can also be a sign of the appearance of darker blood. Initially, during this blood appears darker and heavy.

Another contributing reason can be missed miscarriage when the fetus stops developing and stays in the uterus for at least 4 weeks and some women develop darker bleeding.

Retained menses can also lead to a darker appearance of blood. When menstrual blood is blocked from leaving the uterus, cervix, or vagina. As a result, the blood may turn black over the time it’s retained. In case of severe blockage, it may develop amenorrhea or a complete lack of menstruation.

In very rare cases, it can also be a reason for leading to cervical cancer. Many people don’t have any symptoms, irregular bleeding between cycles or after sex is the most common sign of invasive cancer.

Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like gonorrhea or chlamydia, may cause bleeding and unusual discharge. Black discharge may mean that older blood is leaving the uterus or vaginal canal. It can be followed by other symptoms, including bleeding during or after sexual intercourse, painful urination, pain or pressure in your pelvis, vaginal itching, and spotting between periods.

Also Read: Normal Period

When To See A Doctor

A woman’s monthly cycle repeats every 21 to 35 days and normal menstrual bleeding lasts two to seven days. Black period blood is not necessarily a reason to worry. It is advisable to pay attention to changes with regard to your body. If they concern you and cause distress, it needs to be discussed with a health care specialist.

Uterine fibroids, endometriosis, ectopic pregnancy can be among the other reasons for the appearance of black period blood. A healthy lifestyle and a balanced diet that are conducive to hormones should always be maintained. It reduces the risk of various diseases and increases the metabolic rate to improve the overall condition of your health. Never forget to prioritize your health.

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