Dating is all fun and games until it is taking a toll on your mental health. More often than not, we women don’t even realise when the dating turns out to be toxic.
Depending on the nature of the relationship, signs of toxicity can be subtle or highly obvious, explains Carla Marie Manly, PhD, author of “Joy from Fear.”
If you consistently feel drained or unhappy after spending time with your partner, it could be a sign that things need to change, says relationship therapist Jor-El Caraballo.
Hence, we have compiled a list of traits in men, that will help you know if you are in a toxic relationship or dating a toxic man
Possessiveness
Jealousy is often cute but not cute when it crosses the limit. If you man is always possessive about you to an extent that he wants to control you. This is a clear sign of running away. Possessiveness is an inherent human trait but when one doesn’t do anything about it and leaves it uncontrolled, it can take a serious toll on your relationship.
Lack of support and understanding
Your partner needs to be supportive and understanding towards you, your needs and your dreams. It is fine if he doesn’t agree to your beliefs unless and until he respects you and disagrees respectfully. If you often find him disregarding your thoughts, needs and feelings, he is toxic to you.
Stressing it out
A normal amount of tension runs through every relationship, but finding yourself constantly on edge is an indicator that something’s off. This ongoing stress can take a toll on your physical and emotional health. Your relationship should not constantly feel like a warzone, rather an escape and a safe space.
Dishonesty
A relationship solidifies itself on the foundation of love and trust. But if your partner is constantly being dishonest to you, it is time to recognize this toxic behaviour and put an end to it forever.
Controlling behavior
Questioning where you are all the time or becoming overly upset when you don’t immediately answer texts are both signs of controlling behavior, which can contribute to toxicity in a relationship. In some cases, these attempts of control over you can be a sign of abuse (more on this later).
Revenge and grudge
Holding on to grudges and letting them fester chips away at intimacy. Over time, frustration or resentment can build up and make a smaller chasm much bigger.
As a woman who wishes to keep away from mental and physical abuse, getting rid of toxic behaviour is important. Sometimes when you take these issues to your partner they acknowledge, understand and try to change. This is always considered as a good sign. But, if this is not case with you, it is best to move away from such bonds as soon as possible.