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Women Who Play The Victim Card Are Pseudo-feminists?!

Written By: Tasneem Akbari Kutubuddin
December 4, 2020
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In a society where women have to work doubly hard to be where men are in different fields and fight all the prejudices aimed at them, it’s just not right when some use the same woman’s card to play the victim. Yes, women have been victims of sexism and gender-based oppression and women. Women’s history is witness to how many women’s rights movements it took to gain so many basic things that we have today, like the right to vote. Feminism has often been misconstrued and misunderstood as a movement to undermine men whereas it is just about all genders having equal rights and opportunities.

At the same time, stereotyping men and women under a bracket of social and behavioural constructs again is what feminism is not about. At the same time, saying things like “A woman is always right” and “never argue with a woman”, “women don’t do that” are wrong because one cannot generalize in such broad terms.

While some women emerge as survivors, battling all odds of crime, abuse, lack of opportunities, etc, some others are misusing it to their benefit instead of trying to gain equality.

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However, in some instances, women have used their gender and played victim to garner attention or get away from a situation, or have just used their gender as an advantage. People do indulge in various kinds of psychological tricks to get others to side with them in a conflict. While some try to wiggle themselves out of trouble by their speaking skills, others use intimidation, extortion, bribes, pleas, or play the weaker sex.

Here are 5 times women portray themselves as victims

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Aarti and Pooja coming out of Rohtak court with the police protection on Wednesday. December 10, 2014: Photo by Manoj Dhaka

1.       Incident of the Rohtak sisters beating three young men with a belt alleging that the men had harassed them. Soon, the video was being broadcast by television channels. The girls were praised by the media and given the nickname “Bravehearts”. After a second video emerged within a few days, which showed them kicking another boy, the opinions began to shift towards negative. Six women claiming to be passengers on the bus had testified in front of the police. They said it was not an issue of harassment, but a dispute over seats as the girls had been occupying a seat allotted to a sick woman.

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2.       Saravjeet Singh, a 28-year-old Delhi resident, was labeled an “eve teaser” and a “pervert” by media channels after Jasleen Kaur, a former Delhi University student, had in 2015 accused him of verbally harassing her at a traffic signal in West Delhi. He was later acquitted of these charges in 2019 by a judge, claiming that the complainant’s testimony was not trustworthy. But the harm was already done to his reputation and career.

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3. A man, who faced trial for over seven years for a crime he didn’t commit, was awarded a compensation of Rs 15 lakh by a court in Chennai, Tamil Nadu in 2016. Santosh won the compensation suit against a woman, who had falsely accused him of raping and impregnating her in the year 2012. However, a DNA test confirmed that Santosh is not the father of her child.

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4.    Actor Payal Rohatgi went on a rant on both Facebook and Twitter on January 3 from the Mumbai airport after two Jet Airways ground staff denied her and her partner Sangram Singh permission to board a flight to Thiruvananthapuram. The fault was on her part when she reached at 6:20 am for a 6:50 am flight when reporting 45 minutes prior to the gates was the rule. She even tried to give it a communal angle since the staff was Muslim.

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5.       Actor Kangana Ranaut used Sushant Singh Rajput’s suicide to talk about unrelated issues in the film industry. She had urged Mumbai Police to question Mahesh Bhatt, Karan Johar, and Aditya Chopra on Sushant Singh’s demise for “systematically sabotaging his career” and abetting his suicide. She sparked a debate of favouritism and nepotism in Bollywood whereas it was later proved that the actor was suffering from mental illness and drug usage which led to him taking his own life.

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It is said that in a conflict you should always take the side of the victim. Women’s history has seen victims of oppression and hence society’s first response is to offer protection and benevolentness towards women and children. This factor is used by some women to gain something they may want or get out of threatening situations at times.

In this fight for equality, it becomes difficult to know the true intentions of the victim and if this is then proved false, imagine the kind of harm and mistrust it sets towards others. These tactics however are usually not resorted to by true feminists, on the contrary, these are probably the ones not interested in equality, though they may claim they have a special interest and claim to be part of a lobby group. They exaggerate the reality, use false and misleading statistics, and use inflammatory language to gain power and demonize males.

These instances make others distrust them and can make them later doubt the truth in another incident. These incidents sometimes mar the entire future of the alleged perpetrator of the crime who may be innocent, but since the harm has been done it is too late to correct the wrong. It is akin to the story of the boy who cried wolf and when the wolf really attacked, nobody believes him. Women’s history has them fight hard battles and is still fighting them but because of a handful of such bad seeds the voice of genuine victims will not be heard and they may continue to suffer. 

Infano condemns such victim playing in the name of feminism and women’s rights. Do you have a similar incident to share? Write to us at infano@gmail.com

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Tasneem Akbari Kutubuddin

Tasneem Akbari Kutubuddin has done her masters in Journalism & Communication and has worked as a senior journalist, editor and columnist for leading publications like The Logical Indian, Deccan Chronicle, Worldwide Media Corporation, The Bridge and Provoke.
With Infano, she hopes to create more awareness about women’s health issues. Suffering with Fibromyalgia, a chronic pain condition, she has also been advocating for its awareness through media.

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THE V-DAY PLAN FOR NON-BINARIES

Written By: Shweta Suvarna
February 14, 2021 | 02:02 PM |
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Valentine’s day is the day of love, celebrated across the globe! However, I couldn’t help but notice how the sublime message of couples being only ‘male and female’ is being propagated everywhere. Whether it is a social media post, print advertisement, TV commercial, or a simple WhatsApp forward – somehow we have made valentine’s day a synonym to the day that is only for cisgender couples! 

Honestly, it is disturbing to see how a huge community has been cut off and alienated. If this is the day of love, why is love being limited to these two genders?

This day can be a little tricky for non-binary couples. After all, where would they find inclusivity in celebration from? 

So we decided to come up with inclusive gifting options (both tangible and intangible) that can make this V-Day an equal celebration for all of us! 

Here are 5 ideas on how to celebrate your Valentine’s day

  1. Beauty and spa: If you both are into beauty and spa then this is for you. Take an appointment and indulge in a ravishing massage, beauty procedures, and relaxing spa on this Valentine. This will not only help you spend the time with your loved one but also let you indulge in some self-love. 
  1. A house plate: If you have recently moved in with your partner a house plate that celebrates love could be a good idea. Phrases like – “LoveWins” or “NothingButLove” are not just cute but thought-provoking. 
  1. Coming out: When you are in love, you wish to tell this to the whole world! What can be crazier than coming out in public with your partner on this day? This is brave, without a doubt but if you do it – it is a win-win for sure. 
  1. Movie date: Movie dates are fun! Whether you decide to go out and watch a movie or stay in and binge on Netflix – the choice is yours. But, the experience of watching a movie with your partner is beautiful beyond measures. Do that if you have nothing else planned. 
  1. The Pride keepsake: Whether it is a cute mug, pillow, hate, or anything else, something with Pride colors on it could be an amazing gift! Go ahead and search the shops online – we are sure you will find something of that sort! If not, customize one.

Also Read…

  • Coming Out Month: People Who Mustered Courage To Accept Their Sexuality!
  • Rights And Beliefs: LGBT Laws That You Must Be Aware Of In India!
  • Know Your Transgender Terminologies

While these are some of the gifts please don’t shy away from experimenting. Irrespective of what the media and society tell you – this day is for everyone who is in love – you, me, he, she, them! 

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Shweta Suvarna

A copywriter by profession and a writer otherwise. One who reads books and tarots in free time and has a thing for "chai"

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