We are taught to believe since childhood that women are born to be mothers. But the road to being pregnant and being a mother does not come very naturally and easily to every woman. And when you realize that you do not fit into the society’s concept of an ideal woman, what goes through your mind, is turmoil.
Seetal Savla is an Indian, born and brought up in the UK. She has a blog Savlafaire in which she reviews food and has exclusive restaurant reviews. It was all good till the realization struck after an unexpected pregnancy and miscarriage, that she really wanted to have babies. But there was a long tough journey ahead.
Since having babies naturally did not happen to Seetal and her husband, they decided to go through IVF. They have since had four cycles of failed IVF and they are now trying to use donor eggs for the next cycle. Each IVF try has its own struggle in terms of expense and also trying to keep a positive outlook.
In India, a lot of stigmas are attached to infertility -the constant questions on what is wrong, the look of judgement in people’s eyes, the weird superstitions and solutions that suggested to overcome the issue – leaving one with a feeling of being incomplete. In spite of living in a developed country, Seetal still had to go through all of this, maybe to a lesser extreme. Seetal decided to be more vocal about her experience so that other women who are going through don’t feel alone and know they can always be there for each other. She also strongly believes that to bring about a long-term change in the outlook of the society towards infertility and IVF, it is necessary to have sex education in schools and remove the taboo around menstruation. Cheers to Seetal @SavlaFaire for being so courageous and trying to make a change in the world!