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Let’s Talk About Consent

Written By: Sindhu Kambam
May 14, 2021

Highlights

  • True romantic relationships rely on respect and trust.
  • Consent is about communicating your sexual interests with your partner.
  • It is a myth that asking for consent breaks the mood.
  • Sexual encounter without consent is a sexual assault or rape.

 

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Most couples hesitate to discuss sex. While they enjoy talking about every other topic under the son, they hardly talk about intimacy and sexual interests.

The most common objection to practicing consent is the belief that asking someone to kiss or touch them will “kill the mood” or be less romantic, as if being open about what is going on between two people makes it less sexy. But it is not so.

Consent is a mutual agreement or understanding between the partners who engage in sexual activity. It is about communicating your sexual interests with your partner.

The fact that consent kills the mood remains a commonly overlooked aspect. It is a myth that asking for consent breaks the mood.

It’s not like once the consent is given, it is granted every time. Pressuring or forcing your partner into sex is a sign of an unhealthy and unsafe relationship with dangerous consequences in the future and can ruin your relation.

Talking consent with your partner strengthens your bond and helps improve your sexual relationship. It communicates respect and builds intimacy with your partner and demonstrates your maturity.

Consent does not break your mood but opens the way for greater clarity, safety, pleasure, and ecstasy. Take your time. Get comfortable with each other. Consensual sex can be the biggest turn on.

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Growing up in a culture where discussing sex is frowned upon, it is natural for everyone to be embarrassed to discuss the concept of consent in context of physical relationships.

Most couples hesitate to discuss sex. While they enjoy talking about every other topic under the sun, they hardly talk about intimacy and sexual interests.

Even married couples feel embarrassed to talk about sexual interests with their partners. The majority do not even ask their partner whether they are comfortable for a sexual encounter before engaging in it.

People tend to assume that they have the green light by default. The idea that one person is responsible for asking or pushing for sex is not only unfair and unsafe to the other partner but is also heteronormative. It supports the belief that one person has more power and control than the other in a sexual act. This mentality can put many people in vulnerable situations that could potentially lead to sexual assault.

The most common objection to practicing consent is the belief that asking someone to kiss or touch them will “kill the mood” or be less romantic, as if being open about what is going on between two people makes it less sexy. But it is not so.

Sexual consent is an essential part of healthy relationships and should always be communicated clearly. Asking for consent must become an indispensable part of the sexual act.

Here is a guide to help you understand what consent means in the context of sex, and how to ask for consent without killing the mood.

What is a Consent?

Consent is a mutual agreement or understanding between the partners who engage in sexual activity. It is about communicating your sexual interests with your partner.

Discussions on consent improve healthy sex life and make your relationship better.

Kill the Myth – Not the Mood

The fact that consent kills the mood remains a commonly overlooked aspect. It is a myth that asking for consent breaks the mood. Talking consent with your partner strengthens your bond and helps improve your sexual relationship.

Consent is a spark when it comes to emotional connection, desire, intimacy, and sex. Talking consent is a great way to spice up your sex life and gives each partner a chance to state their needs and desires clearly.

How to ask for consent without killing the mood?

Get the guts to communicate with your partner

In general, sex and intimate relationships are vulnerable subjects, and many people feel uncomfortable initiating conversations about consent.

It is natural to feel embarrassed or feel nervous to start a conversation about consent. Talking consent helps you figure out the likes and dislikes of your partner and whether they are feeling safe with your act.

It communicates respect and builds intimacy with your partner and demonstrates your maturity. It need not be a long conversation. Just go with the flow. Ensure that it is a mutual and open conversation wherein both you and your partner can voice your comfort levels to have an enjoyable sexual experience.

Ask about your partner’s desires and interests

True romantic relationships rely on respect and trust. Couples should feel free to know each other’s interests and difficulties and should indulge in intimate talks for a healthy sexual experience.

Allow your partner to express and share their boundaries, preferences, curiosities confidently.

How to ask your partner whether she or he is ready to engage in sex?

“Are you comfortable with going ahead?”.

“Are you okay with this?”

“May I kiss you?”

Clear verbal communication in positive language is one of the greatest assets for your sexual relationship.

Respect your partner’s boundaries

If you want to move from kissing to intimate touch, try to communicate your desires with love and respect without pressuring your partner. Be honest about what you want and what you do not.

Asking for consent at every stage shows that you respect your partner’s confidentiality. Let your partner know it is okay if they want to stop or do something different.

Do not act like you feel rejected or make your partner feel like they turned you off. They might say no because they are not comfortable or not interested at that moment or for many other reasons.

Do not ask for consent again and again

Respect your partner’s feelings. Once your partner says no, let it be so. Accept it. Asking your partner repeatedly to engage in a sexual act until they give in is not consent but coercion.

One should know that a sexual encounter without consent is a sexual assault or rape, even with your married partner.

It’s not like once the consent is given, it is granted every time. Pressuring or forcing your partner into sex is a sign of an unhealthy and unsafe relationship with dangerous consequences in the future and can ruin your relation.

The Bottom-line

Consent does not break your mood but opens the way for greater clarity, safety, pleasure, and ecstasy. Take your time. Get comfortable with each other. Consensual sex can be the biggest turn on.

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Sindhu Kambam

A content writer by profession with a passion in art and science. Being a nature and technology lover, she loves to solve real problems that makes life easier.

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Indian Navy Day: Meet The First Women Combat Aviators To Be Deployed On Warships!

Written By: Sonali
December 4, 2020 | 11:20 AM |
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Women never fail to amaze! From managing an entire house to a school, company, district, state or nation — they keep proving us that they are equally capable as other genders and can do wonders if given a chance!

Creating a new history, two Indian Navy officers — Sub Lieutenant Kumudini Tyagi and Sub Lieutenant Riti Singh — are going to be the first women combatants who will be operating as specialists (observers) onboard Indian Navy helicopters which operate from the deck of warships.

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Women officers, before this, have been overseeing the logistics and medical department of Navy fleet tankers but they were never a part of the crew onboard destroyers or frigates. But with these two young officers, things will be changing for the better. The sub lieutenants would be trained for operating a host of sensors onboard navy multi-role helicopters, and they would further be responsible for detecting enemy submarines and warships and provide targeting solutions to the pilots of the choppers. The latter would fire the actual weapons, torpedoes or anti-ship missiles.

“They would, in effect, be the first set of women airborne combatants who would be operating from warships. Earlier, entry of women was restricted to the fixed-wing aircraft that took off and landed ashore,” Indian Navy spokesperson Commander Vivek Madhwal said.

Rear Admiral Antony George also called it ‘a landmark occasion wherein for the first-time women will be trained in helicopter operations which would ultimately pave the way for the deployment of women in frontline warships of Indian Navy.’

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“Things are changing in the Indian Navy every day. The Navy is giving everybody an opportunity every day. Yes, we’re breaking barriers every day, but there are a lot of opportunities coming up every day. Whatever role the Indian Navy gives us, we will gladly take them,” Sub Lieutenant Riti Singh, a fourth-generation armed forces officer, told NDTV. Her father had retired from the Navy several years ago.

“Our training has been really rigorous. We’ve both completed over 60 hours of training… We take pressure and tension bang on. We don’t get worked up,” she said.

“We’ve been treated equally… Whatever training our male counterparts received, we went through the same training… It is a huge responsibility; the task is a challenge. We are looking forward to it,” Sub Lieutenant Kumudini Tyagi, who is from Ghaziabad near Delhi, told NDTV.

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As per the reports, the women officers from the Indian Air Force may also join their naval counterparts in shattering the glass ceiling with a woman fighter pilot being trained to fly the newly induct Rafale fighter jets. The pilot would be based out of the 17 Squadron in Ambala where the five Rafale jets are stationed.

Infano salutes these gritty lady officers and the entire Indian Navy on the occasion of Indian Navy day.

Indian Navy day is celebrated on 4 December every year to recognize the achievements and role of the Indian Navy to the country. 4 December was chosen as on that day in 1971, during Operation Trident, the Indian Navy sank four Pakistani vessels including PNS Khaibar, killing hundreds of Pakistani Navy personnel. On this day, those who martyred in the Indo-Pakistan War of 1971 are also remembered.

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A 'non-9-5 desk job' ambivert geek who chooses her own audience, Sonali loves sharing stories and finding the corners where humanity still exists! She believes that every individual's story is unique and special. She loves writing about the untouched and unspoken segments of society. When not writing, you can find her listening to someone's stories or playing with dogs. Sonali values mental health and encourages people to speak their heart out!

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