How to Deal With Children and Exams: The Parental Guide

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Exams not only help to get good marks, secure a better stream, or a scholarship, but a successful performance in exams can help boost the confidence of a child. While your child is facing a lot of pressure from school, friends and society, it’s your turn as a parent to make your child motivated and confident enough to prepare for the exam.

Here’s how you can support your children during the exam:

Don’t put much pressure on the students

Each year, crores of students appear for exams from different boards. You can imagine the immense pressure your child may face during the preparation of the exam with such competition.

As a parent, you should realize the stress factor and not set any unrealistic targets for them. During the exam, you should give an assurance to your child that you will be there to support them irrespective of the exam result. A gentle motivation and encouragement will be much more helpful to boost the child’s confidence.

Help them to manage time and prepare a timetable

While a child is going to face the board exam, they have to give proper time to revisions, solving previous year’s questions, memorizing, etc. They must have an hour or two for rest and recreation. Parents need to help their child create a proper time table to meet the daily study target and ensure that each day remains balanced.

In this process, they might not need your consistent help. But you have to be there at the initial phase to help them stay on track. It is the moment when as a parent you have to be firm forward yet supportive to your child.

Monitor the progress and encourage them to create Self-Help Aids

Daily assessments can do much to track your child’s progress. Encourage them to take up regular mock tests seriously. Figure out their strong and weak areas from the mock assessment. Also, please do not allow any extra time, restricting them to complete a paper within the given time limit. By this, they will be more organized at the time of the real exam.

Sit down with them, take an oral test. Once your child is done with each mock and oral examination, ask them to list the patterns of mistake, and areas needing further revision. In this way, they can create a better revision plan and can improve their performance efficiently with time.

Make sure you are giving proper attention to nutrition, exercise/activity and sleep

Your child needs to look after themselves. It is very common for students to forget to eat or sleep at a proper time when the exam is just one or two weeks away. They get busy with their schedule and due to stress, sleeping and eating on time, takes a back seat.

As a parent, you have to make sure that your child remains mentally and physically healthy during this time. Make sure they have a healthy and balanced diet. You can encourage them to take juice or fruits at a regular intervals. If your child prefers to study late at night, encourage them to take frequent power naps in the day time. This will boost the mental capability in such a stressful time.

And don’t forget physical exercise. Take your child out with you for a walk or a cycle ride. Make sure they have a regular break from studying for nutrition, physical activity and sleep.

Provide a proper environment for study

Do not create a national library in your home, instead create a calm environment. Make sure you are not organizing any house party at the time of exams.

Give your child the support they need during the examination, be that pillar and help them to flourish in their exam and not be afraid of it.

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I wish people feared their sons becoming rapists as much as they fear them being gay.

While teaching our daughters to be strong in a patriarchal society, did we teach our sons to understand the concept of women’s autonomy and choice?

Raising a son is scary. One day a girl is going to fall for him and I hope he treats her right, respect her no matter what.

I noticed that dozens of women these days post pictures with their baby boys with the following quote~

“I’m raising a son that your daughter will be safe with, I Promise!”

Now I’m the first to agree that parents hold a huge responsibility when it comes to raising a child who respects women, understands women, and treats every human alike.

One thing that I have pondered is that I feel so passionate about raising my son but together I feel scared and pressured with this heavy responsibility to raise a son who’s gentle, kind, supportive, loving son, friend, brother and partner.

I feel that men experience more pressure or self consciousness around “being manly” than do women on being “womanly enough”, and I have to say that it was an initial point of insecurity that I had in considering my ability to raise a male child.

One of the main suggestions is to teach young boys about their emotions. Encourage them to talk and avoid telling them that “boys don’t cry’. Ensure that we don’t teach them in any way that they are smarter or powerful than girls. This starts with the chores we set them around the house not being stereotypically male.

Teach them ‘No Means No’. Teach them what inappropriate behaviours look like from a young age. Teach them consent. Call them out if they make sexist comments or jokes.

Let him be himself- For children to reach their full potential, they need to follow their interests. So let them.

Encourage friendships with girls

Research at Arizona state University found that by the end of pre school, children start segregating by sex and this reinforces gender stereotypes. But children who are encouraged to play with friends of the opposite sex learn better problem solving and communication. Boys who have friendships with girls are also less likely to think of women as sexual conquests.

Never use “girl” as an insult, “Girl” is still the most derogatory insult that can be hurled at a boy.

As parents, you have some power to change this simply by ensuring our sons don’t grow up thinking that anything traditionally feminine is negative or somehow less than.

I want them to learn that it is important to value everyone’s contributions. I want the boys to know that earning the money is just one part of contributing to the household. The person who makes money is no more important than the one who does other jobs, such as cleaning, organizing and caring for others.

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Our son needs to see the male figures in his life- his dad, grandfathers, uncles, teachers, coaches and what respect for women looks like. And he also needs to see the female figures who expect to be treated fairly and kindly.

There cannot be a perfect equation for how to ensure you raise your kids to be non-violent empathetic adults but every skill you equip them will make us closer to that goal. It will raise awareness, it will change attitudes and it just may save a life, afterall you’re not just raising a son, you’re raising someone’s husband and somebody’s father, RAISE HIM WELL !

About our Guest Author:
Aayushi Arora is from Indore and is currently pursuing her graduation in pharmaceutical sciences. She has been writing in her diary since she was 12 but it is only recently that she opened herself on the digital media to let people read her writings.