A Good Parent Is A Good Companion That Every Child Needs

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We have always heard that our parents are our first teachers, guide, and friend. They don’t just teach us to take our first step but also, how to deal with various situations in life. Most valuable lessons of our lives come from them. It is essential to be a good parent because your child is your reflection. Children can grasp better than adults, and therefore, it’s necessary to give them the right direction and education.

There are many types of parenthood from authoritative, authoritarian, permissive to uninvolved. You are the best judge on what kind of a parent you want to be.

Although there is no fixed formula to be a good parent, there are a few things that are a must to be an ideal parent and good role model for your child.

Patience is the key

Being a parent is a 24*7 job. With every tantrum and mischief, you get closer to losing your patience. Try and stay calm even during the frustrating times, no matter how overwhelming it gets. You need to find a solution instead of reacting in a certain way that you might regret later. Good parents never lose their patience; they remain cool and calm which helps their children feel safe and secure. Learning how to handle stress and responsibility can help in the long run. Children are innocent and faint-hearted, they need to be treated with love and nurtured with patience.

Show empathy

It is essential to have a healthy relationship with your child, and it starts when you show love and compassion towards them. They learn empathy like every other skill from their parents. When you express your love, they feel important and secure and also, open up to you. It makes them expressive and helps them to share their emotions with you. As they start building trust towards you, they share their perspective. This also helps them to grow empathetic towards others, as well as, it makes them strong enough to cope with stress and failure in future.

Respect and mutual trust

If you want your child to respect you, you need to respect them too. They feel important when they are included in important decisions. It also helps them to differentiate between wrong and right. When they make mistakes, it is essential to make them understand why it is wrong; it helps them build their thinking and not repeat the same mistakes in future. Constant advice can hurt their confidence and lead to fighting. When you do not trust them, you are pushing them to become rebellious.

A boundary is necessary

While being a good friend, you also need to maintain specific rules in your house. Teach them about personal space and keep some limits. This helps them to build discipline and encourage them to maintain a routine. Teach them about the healthy distance one needs to keep with others. Also, do not contradict yourself and break the rules. If you yourself won’t follow them, it will confuse your child and eventually will lose interest in respecting your rules and decisions.

Communication

Clear and understanding communication builds a healthy relationship-same goes with you and your child. Good parents never give advice and judge their children without listening to their perspective or their side of the story. Always listen to your child, this will help them to learn the same and they in return will listen to you better. When you maintain a frank and healthy communication, it makes you approachable. They might not feel comfortable talking about certain things, but communication is a skill that every parent needs to learn.

Highlights

Sruti Nakkhul shares a heartfelt note on her social media with new parents about her journey as a breastfeeding mother to mark World Breastfeeding Week.

Reading up exclusively and attending classes on lactation helped in busting myths and made me much more confident about what I was getting into.

“Breastfeeding is not just ladies matter”. It’s hard; it needs dedication and a lot of help and support. It’s recommended by WHO to breastfeed for AT LEAST 2 years.

There may be mommies who didn’t enjoy breastfeeding from day one, some who give formulas, some a mix of breast milk & formula. It does not matter. You do what works for your baby and you.

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As Sruti and actor husband Nakkhul became parents to a baby girl, one year back, Sruti shared a heartfelt note on her social media with new parents about her journey as a breastfeeding mother to mark World Breastfeeding Week.

“It’s been one year since Akira was born and it’s also been a year where Nakul & I were also born as Parents. It also completes one year of exclusive breastfeeding for me. It also so happens that August 1st week is World Breastfeeding Week. This week I have just a few things I’d like to say to every single Mummas and Pappas!”

sruti nakkhul — Sruti and Nakkhul with daughter Akira

Reading up exclusively and attending classes on lactation helped in busting myths and made me much more confident about what I was getting into. If my baby didn’t latch, I knew the right way to go about it and how to help the baby latch correctly.
Golden Hour is truly golden. Right after Akira was born, she was immediately on my chest. Like the next second. In a matter of 20 minutes I got my stitches. While getting my stitches, she was still on my chest, skin to skin and she didn’t whine even a bit and was only observing my face. While I was cleaning up to get ready to nurse her, Papa was holding her skin to skin. After this, when I held her next to my breast, she just naturally latched on like a dream.
The first 4 days I didn’t have “milk” like milky white things flowing out. I had good colostrums. Only on the 5th day I could actually see the breast milk. Also, I didn’t have any progesterone supplement tabs when I was pregnant.
The first 3 months were the most exhausting. The long nursing hours, cluster feeding days , lack of proper sleep , fear and anxiety if I’m holding her right , if my breast is covering too much of her nose, is the let down too fast ? All these things were running in my mind.
By the 4th month I was more confident. I was able to lie down next to her and feed her while she nursed for a longer time and I got to rest as well.
There have been days when I’ve been overwhelmed, over stimulated because of nursing and cried because I didn’t feel like feeding any more. There have also been days when I admire her while she’s feeding and cried because one day she might wean off. It’s a never ending cycle of mixed emotions.
As silly as it sounds, I’ve been scared to pump and give her milk because I used to think what if she didn’t drink from my breast after that? The fear that I might be replaced by a mere cup! My breast pump machine still sits unopened in my cupboard.
I’ve eaten everything from day one. Every single thing I like but in moderation and whatever is in season. Babies get gassy, cranky and irritated for a million things. But no it’s mostly not because of what you ate.
Yes she comfort feeds, she needs to nurse to fall asleep most times. No that does not mean you’re spoiling your child. She feeds on demand & Even after she started solids , she ALWAYS looks for me for a top up of milk right after her meal 😄
Teething days are hard but it’s good to set your boundaries and tell them that it hurts when they bite. We think they may not understand and they just laugh. But trust me, babies know. There have been times when Akira has bitten me so badly while she’s teething, my natural reaction would obviously be to whine in pain. Once I unlatch her, I tell her calmly that it hurts me and that I’m going to feed her after a while. Sometimes she understands and sometimes she cries. But it’s okay. You don’t have to feel bad.
Breastfeeding is just more than milk. It’s intense, it’s emotional, and it’s a different kind of bonding for both the mother and the baby. Also NO the size of your breast does not matter. And DONT FORGET TO PEE / POOP. Just don’t. Don’t hold it in. It’s okay for the baby to cry for a couple of minutes but go take that damn bathroom break.
Last but not the least, there may be mommies who didn’t enjoy breastfeeding from day one, some who give formulas, some a mix of breast milk & formula. It does not matter. You do what works for your baby and you. Don’t let anyone shame for your decisions. You don’t owe any explanations to anyone. Trust your body & your mommy instincts.

“Also, all your daddies, it’s your child too. Yes, you can’t breastfeed them. That’s the only thing you won’t be able to do. But it’s nice when sometimes you’re also awake with the mommies when they’re up and feeding in the dead of the night. Giving company helps them to not feel lonely. Support your wife’s decisions and back her up when people try to give unsolicited / myth-based advice. It’s your duty equally to read up and learn about breastfeeding. Repeat after me- “Breastfeeding is not just ladies matter”. It’s hard; it needs dedication and a lot of help and support. It’s recommended by WHO to breastfeed for AT LEAST 2 years. So NO, it does not lose its nutritional value all of a sudden when the baby turns one”.

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